六种帮助孩子交朋友的方法

Friends become a child's chosen family. If his social life is going well, he gains confidence. If she has trouble connecting, it hurts and can make her feel sad and withdrawn¹ and lonely.

1. Help your child communicate.
Kids who are naturally outgoing have an easier time expressing their interest in other children than shy ones do. But you can help build this skill through practice. Ask your child about her favorite games and toys. Compliment her on specifics when she shows interest in other people: "You were so nice to let Roger talk about his puppy. I am proud of you."

2. Keep play short and sweet.
Parents should keep early play dates short, so no one gets too tired and everyone has fun. Schedule the next one soon thereafter, so kids can quickly build on their comfort foundation.

3. Know your child.
If your child is bossy², meet on neutral turf and agree beforehand on which toys will be shared (and which ones should be put away because your child just can't seem to share them). If you have a shy child, match him with a younger child so he has a chance to be the leader.

4. Help play get started.
If the kids are whiny³ or are having a hard time figuring out what to do, have some fun projects ready to go. Coloring, sculpting⁴, blowing bubbles--these are great ways to get things humming or restore harmony.

5. Help your kids help others.
Encourage your child to be a better friend by helping⁵ him include others in play. If you see someone being excluded, don't ignore it. This is an opportunity to work on your child's empathy skills. "Rachel is being left out. That must make her feel very sad. Can you think of a way to include her in the game?"

6. Help your kids help themselves.
If your child is the one who's being left out or treated badly, teach her to speak up.

1 withdrawn
vt.收回；使退出；vi.撤退，退出
参考例句：
Our force has been withdrawn from the danger area.我们的军队已从危险地区撤出 。 All foreign troops should be withdrawn to their own countries.一切外国军队都应撤回本国去 。

2 bossy
adj.爱发号施令的 ，作威作福的
参考例句：
She turned me off with her bossy manner.她态度专�M很讨我嫌。 She moved out because her mother-in-law is too bossy.她的婆婆爱指使人,所以她搬出去住了 。

3 whiny
adj. 好发牢骚的, 嘀咕不停的, 烦躁的
参考例句：
People get rude and whiny when they are exhausted. 人们在精疲力竭的时候会变得粗野 ，爱发牢骚 。 People get rude and whiny and exacting when they are exhausted. 人在筋疲力尽的时候会变得粗暴、爱发牢骚而苛求。

4 sculpting
雕刻( sculpt的现在分词 )； 雕塑； 做（头发）； 梳（发式）
参考例句：
The quality of the result is determined by a Craft( sculpting) check. 由手艺（刻）定决定结果质量如何 。 Another difficulty in the process of ice sculpting is time control. 冰雕过程中的另一项困难是时间的掌控 。

5 helping
n.食物的一份&adj.帮助人的，辅助的
参考例句：
The poor children regularly pony up for a second helping of my hamburger. 那些可怜的孩子们总是要求我把我的汉堡包再给他们一份。 By doing this, they may at times be helping to restore competition. 这样一来, 他在某些时候,有助于竞争的加强 。