男人间的友谊 孤独是我们的自然状态

男人从未像女人那样开诚布公地说出自己的心里话，但无言的理解 ，在男人当中却很管用
，尤其在维持友谊的时候。

也许男人天生就是彼此孤立的，孤独是我们的自然状态 。即使成了朋友 ，也是无声的友谊
，这使得我们能彼此独立地活着
。

而一旦男人间建立起友谊，友谊本身就已说明了一切。我们的沉默 ，就是来自于对这份情感的欣赏 。

The silence of men in general is overtalked about and overcriticized. To be sure, men never open up as much as women want them to, but there is a wordless understanding in which we function fairly well especially in friendships.

I believe, in fact, that most women would prefer a man to be gloomily uncommunicative than to spill his guts¹ at the drop of a hat.

The push for men to express their feelings presumes that we have feelings, and we do have a few, but they remain submerged, and the airing of them often violates their authenticity².

I am no biologist, but my guess is that the male human animal was programmed for silence. I would go so far as to argue that men were programmed to be isolated³ from one another and that aloneness is our natural state. Silence in male friendships is our way of being alone with each other.

Once men have established a friendship that itself is the word. The affection is obvious, at least to us. A main component⁴ of our silence is an appreciation⁵ of the affection.

1 guts
v.狼吞虎咽，贪婪地吃 ，飞碟游戏（比赛双方每组5人 ，相距15码，互相掷接飞碟）；毁坏（建筑物等）的内部( gut的第三人称单数 )；取出…的内脏n.勇气( gut的名词复数 )；内脏；消化道的下段；肠
参考例句：
I'll only cook fish if the guts have been removed. 鱼若已收拾干净 ，我只需烧一下即可 。 Barbara hasn't got the guts to leave her mother. 巴巴拉没有勇气离开她妈妈。 来自《简明英汉词典》

2 authenticity
n.真实性
参考例句：
There has been some debate over the authenticity of his will. 对于他的遗嘱的真实性一直有争论 。 The museum is seeking an expert opinion on the authenticity of the painting. 博物馆在请专家鉴定那幅画的真伪。

3 isolated
adj.与世隔绝的
参考例句：
His bad behaviour was just an isolated incident. 他的不良行为只是个别事件 。 Patients with the disease should be isolated. 这种病的患者应予以隔离。

4 component
n.组成部分 ，成分，元件；adj.组成的 ，合成的
参考例句：
Each component is carefully checked before assembly.每个零件在装配前都经过仔细检查 。 Blade and handle are the component parts of a knife.刀身和刀柄是一把刀的组成部分 。

5 appreciation
n.评价；欣赏；感谢；领会 ，理解；价格上涨
参考例句：
I would like to express my appreciation and thanks to you all.我想对你们所有人表达我的感激和谢意。 I'll be sending them a donation in appreciation of their help.我将送给他们一笔捐款以感谢他们的帮助 。